When we're saying yes to things, is it because it's coming from an innate place of overflow, abundance and ability to give?

OR is it because we are fearful of the reaction on the other end if we do not?

Sound like you…

“I JUST have to figure it all out.”

Read why this is one of the biggest lies we tell ourselves.

✨People pleasing, “having no time” and putting others before yourself, is actually an avoidance tactic to invalidate our own needs, wants and desires.✨

When we shift the gaze to others, we feel needed, accepted or loved by an outside source FIRST before we can in fact do it for ourselves from within…and that sh*t is problematic.

The more I allowed myself to feel, the more I began to heal. 7 years later, it still ebbs and flows, but movement, self-loving rituals and practices…gentleness, has given me a new life. Allowing myself to feel, even in the depths of uncertainty, has led me places I never thought I could go and connected me to people and spaces I hadn’t ever dreamed of. 

More importantly, (also with therapy, time and tools) it connected me back to my true authentic self. 

“I have no time for …(usually something for yourself)

“I have no money for… (usually something for yourself)

”I will never be able to...”

Sound like you? Read this to learn about the stories you are telling yourself, that keep you from your greatness.

Gratitude helps shift out of a scarcity mindset and survival mode. It opens us up to inner knowing, or intuition and abundance which leads to authentic joy. When we make it clear to ourselves, what makes us feel good, its easier to navigate the things that don’t. (and then you can take the necessary action to get rid of the shit that doesn’t serve you to make even more space for that which fills you up)

Gratitude is a full body experience.

You gotta feel that shit. 

Gratitude is the anecdote to an explosive ego as well as a powerful and soul shifting elixir for when old wounding makes its way to the surface and dictates our choices, our words and our actions. Gratitude is medicine. 

So what is scarcity? Where might it come from?

“When I first came here- I was miserable. I was going through a very bad break up and everything was gray. This week my ex contacted me, wanting to start things up again and I told him… my peace is non-negotiable and that I wasn’t interested. Being around strong powerful women has helped me recognize my own power and I feel like.. fuck yes I am here, and everything is sparkly again.”

So what can you find submerged in shadow? Things like..

Anger, rage, greed, selfishness, striving for power and desire to name a few.

Sounds like things you’ve been told were bad? From yourself or others?

Sound like things you deny within yourself? 

Within this acknowledgement or existence alone, lives so much healing. We need to claim that shit too!

But,  we need to claim it in responsiveness vs. reaction, which requires observation and a huge does of love for the nervous system. 

So why is shadow one of our greatest gifts?

When’s the last time you did something that LIT you up? Creatively, physically, mentally, spiritually...sexually? A full feeling of satiation, joy, pleasure or purpose? And most importantly for YOU...not your partner, your kids or your boss?

Expression is an opportunity to show up in the world in a way that your soul craves and sensuality catalyzes this; sight, taste, touch, smell, sound and spirit.

An authentic life is an abundant life.

Doing the work is setting out on a pursuit of happiness and healing.

And, unpopular opinion, we are not talking about that “good vibes only” kinda of spiritual bypassing.

It’s messy, it’s hard and it’s not for everyone (well we think it is), but it’s so worth it. So… “what work do I have to do?” You say. Great question, we’re so happy you asked it, because that is truly the first step.

Are you moving your body for punishment or for pleasure? Holding it prisoner to prior life choices and unrealistic expectations? Or are you honoring the space it’s held for you in this life time and will continue to. That entire energetic exchange will inspire the course of any journey. It will allow in freedom, flow, abundance and gratitude… or it won’t. ✨

When we say it’s not what you think this is what we mean…

We’re not talking about being anti-stripper or anti-sexy, we are all about that shit… We love booty cheeks here. And don’t get us wrong, you will absolutely get back in touch with your sensuality and sexuality; but what we mean when we say “it’s not what you think”… is speaking directly to the pre-judgment you’re putting on yourself and your unexplored abilities before you even allow yourself to believe you could step into a class like this and experience joy pleasure or hell, even success.

We gotta stop that shit.

This message came to me the other night when I couldn’t fall asleep and it really got me thinking. Why is it that we paralyze ourselves with comparisons? Whether we are comparing our present bodies to our old bodies, our abilities to the person standing next to us with none of our life experiences or genetic make-up, or the unattainable world that is social media... we gotta stop doing that shit to ourselves.

Body & self-love language to use & lean on, within your own healing journey.

Awakening and alignment isn’t just about throwing money at the problem- no matter how much money you can throw down in our crystal shop or during a Pleaser’s binge. Try challenging your language and self-speak to shift energy from doubt, fear and hate… to a little more empowered vulnerability supported by accountability and love.

How shifting words can help shift thought, process and action to raise your vibration.

The story of how I started the journey back to myself through pole dance and what has kept calling me back to this ever evolving love affair 7 years later.