Boundaries mean more pleasure…

What if instead of looking at boundaries like a lack of something, we instead reframed the idea of boundaries as a place to infuse in more pleasure?

So instead of thinking of setting boundaries as removing something, we are actually creating space to infuse more of something that we already enjoy.

For example, you’re working on boundaries with your phone. Phones give you access to your email and your social media accounts. It’s the way that people contact you. A lot of us are attached to our phones. So you decide to make a boundary for yourself and say at 8:00 PM every night, I’m going to put my phone in the other room, and that’s going to be that…

That’s a little bit of a tall order for us if we are just starting to examine this specific space for us, right? A hard deadline of 8:00 PM to put your phone away may not be easy to follow.

What if we took a different angle and a different approach and thought about what we’d like to do instead of being on our phone, scrolling through Instagram at 8:00 PM in our bed?

What if we instead said, after dinner, I’m going to ritualize, taking a shower, then sitting in the bathtub, lighting candles, making it a sensual experience, and essentially ween our way off of something WHILE infusing something else that we really love and enjoy, so we can look forward to this new ritual instead of feeling bogged down and kind of strapped to meet a deadline, if you will, or a goal.

How could that look for us if we approach boundaries in this way, if we could infuse in pleasure around the thing that we’re working on rather than a hard barrier?

XO

Emily Rose