Wow, you’ve changed!

Recently someone said to me… 

“Wow…. you’ve changed.” (can you hear the tone - bc it wasn't endearing)

And you know what I thought…

Yeah… Yeah I f*cking have. 

I have changed SO much. 

I am no longer a pushover nor do I whisper my boundaries in the hopes of someone maybe sorta hearing me. 

I stopped treating myself like shit via romantic partners and questionable life choices. 

I stopped running. 

I no longer expect things from people that I can barely offer myself; but I leave room for hope that I always have something to learn.

I take my time. And I dig in. And I trust. (ok well I am still working on that one)

But I no longer self-sabotage in the name of empathy or  “helping” others.

I listen…to myself. To the universe. 

I stopped fighting love, and fighting for it. 

I realized I am not for everyone, and with that-

I realized that I am so much more intelligent and capable then I ever thought I could be. 

And that self worth isn't wrapped up in totems of “sexiness” or productivity - or fake pursuits of pleasure or instant gratification.

I stopped pretending I wasn't magical and powerful, and fully acknowledge that there are still pieces of me that need tending to as well.