Things I wish I knew when I first started pole dancing

Read this is you’re over 30. (If you’re not still read it.)

When I first started pole dancing, 10 years ago… everything changed.

It did. That’s a fact.

Originally what kept me coming back was the physical challenge.

🧠 An hour I could turn my brain off …(and at the time stop thinking about my married boss who was trying to get in my pants- I quit that job btw.)
⚔️An hour to stop scrolling (the page of my ex.)
🏅 An hour to shed myself of the decades of linear movement that lived in my body and shaped my entire life (and shame that came with it from highly competitive sports and an ever changing female figure.)

I loved it. I don’t recommend this at all, but I maxed out my first credit card paying for the first months. (I mean at 24 my limit was minimal but still, not recommended!)

And thennn….I almost quit because I thought I wasn’t good enough.

Here’s what I wish I knew when I began.

Number 1.
🪞 Sensual movement and pole dancing would change the course of my life forever- it would- and it’s still does- but not in the way I originally had planned for myself. Not as a distraction or an escape… but more of a total and complete home coming. And in that homecoming, I would meet the saddest and happiest versions of myself. And everything in between.

Number 2.
🪞 Needing to be “good” at something is a quick way to steal the joy from any new experience. As someone who has been very able bodied her who life, whether it involve physicality or art, pole dancing SHOOK me. Undulating my hips for the first time (for myself) SHOOK me. It made me feel alive. And it was awkward and uncomfortable as hell at first.

Number 3.
🪞 Pole dancing won’t heal you. It won’t.
It’s not going to take your anxiety away or cure your depression… and even though we are magickal AF here, it won’t bring back the ones you’ve lost or overlook traumas.
BUT having rituals and practices to lean on, and people to see you when life gets fucking TOUGH is vital in this life &
owning your body and your emotions and your sexuality FOR YOU will be the best thing you can ever do for yourself.

Period.

If any of this resonates, let me know in the comments.
See you soon.
Xoxo