Maybe you’re participating in “people-pleasing” too…?

Maybe you are participating in  “people-pleasing” too?

It’s ok! We are all working on something in order to live fully in our authentic self.

Here are 8 things I'm just not down to do anymore, as a recovering "People-Pleaser" myself. 

1. Answering people right away. 

I actually realized this was my own compulsive need, acting out of expectation of myself and fear of rejection or worse, disappointment vs, what people actually expected from me. 

2. Shrinking myself to other people’s comfort levels in order to feel seen or accepted.

 Awareness, adjustment and harmony is helpful in energy exchanges and relationships, (romance, family etc.) but fuck making yourself feel small or allowing someone to place you in a box mirroring their inability to live big. 

3. Avoiding conflict, confrontation or challenging questions to “keep the peace.” 

Conversations are an embodiment practice. Especially the really tough ones. Use that voice, and remember- you are responsible for your energy, your delivery, and your intention- not how that makes someone feel. 

4. Forfeiting my own needs and boundaries by putting the needs of others first to “do what’s right.”

We all have the thing we feel obligated to do, even though we don’t want to or it drains us. 

I’ll ask you… why keep doing it? No, but really… why? 

5. Feeling guilty for truly examining what I need to live an abundant, joyful, grateful and authentic life… and taking up that space. 

“Me” time shouldn’t just be something you can purchase. When we reflect inward, and ritualize alone time and self care, connecting to our truest self becomes a priority we don’t even have to pencil into our schedule. And Living authentically, untamed and free is the gift that keeps giving.

6. Being “for” everyone or likable.

My biggest fear used to be that people would think something negative about me. Now I realize, that if everyone was to align with everything I was doing or saying or being… A. That’s completely unrealistic and most likely And B. I 100% am playing the chameleon role, wearing masks to hide who I am or what I want and bull-dozing the uniqueness that makes me, me. 

7. Being afraid of hurting people’s feelings.

Ok well, don’t be a dick or say things to intentionally hurt people, however this looming thought in the back of your mind will block the F out of your throat chakra. Ever have a conversations or argument with someone and then later repeat it to yourself alone and be like “damn it that’s what I should have said.” That’s your authentic expression working her magick when your nervous system has calmed down and she can actually be listened too. Having embodiment practices will help you regulate your system, so you can speak your truth, when you’re in these moments. 

8. Saying “yes” when it’s really a “no.”

If you’re a recovering people pleaser, what’s on the other side of “no” seems more scary or guilt-ridden then what’s on the other side of “yes.” Even if everything in your body is begging for that retreat. My advice for this one? Ya just gotta try it, but start small and work your way up. And re-read #5 

Does this hit home for you? Provide any "AHA" moments?

Which ones was the one the made you go, "Uh f*ckkk, that's me."

- XO

Emily Rose