I am not in charge of how you feel…

(Now let me also note that I am speaking to grown ass women, and also recognize that there are some people out there with complete disregard for other humans. This isn't for them. Some people just suck. I digress.)

My best friend recently shared with me how she was giving me props on a business trip. Sharing with her male co-worker “Yeah IDK how she puts on these big events without fear of people having negative feed back or saying something bad about it.” 

Well..it’s not that there is no fear. Big risks often lead to big “rewards.” Fear seems to partner with expectation, impact and sometimes false senses of control. 

AKA being human. But here’s what I will say. 

Not only at big Wild Within events but in my own life I have factored in and made space for the friction. 

For people to be in their own experience and feel their feelings.

I’ve made peace with knowing you can’t please everyone, even with soulful and carefully curated experiences - thought out from soup to nuts. 

We gotta let people feel their feels. 

The dislikes and disappointments. The joy, the life changing moments, the discomfort…the aha realizations. the expansion and the contraction of being a fully embodied messy human. 

And often, our ego’s roll within those experiences needs to take a back seat. 

And we have to allow space and time for it all to land. 

I think that's a big mistake we make in our relationships too. Romantic, work, professional. 

When friction occurs and shows up….because it undoubtedly will, we hold so tight onto a false sense of “safety.” Whether that be in defensiveness, self- loathing and criticism, or maybe even humor to mask pain. 

Anger. Rage. AVOIDANCE. 

I’ve said this before. We are terrified of sensation. 

But why? 

What false sense of control do we think we have by avoiding feeling? 

More sensation = more choices. 

Now, more choices can be overwhelming if you’ve felt like “you’ve never had any.” or if access to choice has been very limited in your life. 

But maybe that's the gift we can offer ourselves. And others. By making s p a c e for emotion and sensation; feedback from the body and a channel to innate wisdom. 

Maybe choice is the gift we can continue to give to ourselves  - through the muck and the mud and everything that grows through it too. 

“No mud, no lotus”. 

But the lotus needs space to experience her journey to the surface too. 

XO

Emily Rose