Boundaries are sexy AF

Typically, we associate boundaries with drawing hard lines and subtracting things from our lives and as a result… creating a lack in our lives.

What if instead of looking at boundaries like a lack of something, we instead reframed the idea of boundaries as a place to infuse in more pleasure. So instead of removing something, we are instead creating space to infuse more of something that we already enjoy?

For example, say you want to reduce your screen time at night before bed. Rather than focusing on the removal of your phone from the bedroom altogether, you took a different approach and thought about what we’d like to do INSTEAD of being on our phone, scrolling through social media at 8:00 PM in our bed?

What if we instead said, “After dinner, I’m going to ritualize taking a shower, then sitting in the bathtub, lighting candles, turning on soft music, making it a sensual experience.” In doing this, we essentially ween our way off of something while infusing something else that we really love and enjoy (very sexy 😉).

We can look forward to this new ritual instead of feeling bogged down and kind of strapped to meet a deadline, or a goal. How could that look for us if we approach boundaries in this way, if we could infuse in pleasure around the thing that we’re working on rather than a hard barrier?